5 Tips for the Hottest Sex After Age 50
By Dr. Doug Weiss

If you think sex has to decline with each birthday or wedding anniversary, you’re missing out. Sex after 50 can be hot, fun, and exciting. With this five step sex tune-up you’ll soon be turning up the heat in the bedroom again.

Clean Up Your Marriage

Without a good marriage you won’t have good sex-period. Great partners share feelings, go on dates, spiritually connect and manage their money well. A good marriage makes sex easy. Consider sharing two feelings and two praises with your partner daily, going on a weekly date, connecting spiritually and managing money well to be your pre-workout for great sex.

Sometimes couples at this stage are also struggling with recovering from infidelity. In my just released book, “Partner Betrayal Trauma,” I go in depth on how couples can recover from betrayal and regain the trust that is at the core of a great marriage and sex life. Our study of betrayed women found 78 percent trusted their spouse before the betrayal and only 7 percent did after. Without working through the trust issues, you can’t get the marriage solid and consequently, the sex won’t be good either.

Optimize Your Body

In order to feel sexy and physically able to have great sex, view your body as your temple. A sexy temple! By middle age, many people are carrying around extra weight that physically hinders sex and mentally hurts self-confidence. Adopting a wellness lifestyle is a key to great sex. Women and men should have both their hormones and thyroid tested. If either system isn’t functioning optimally, sex often suffers.

Know Your Sex Language

Most people now have heard of the Five Love Languages, but did you know there are also five sex languages? Your sex language relates to what turns you on about sex, and of course, it’s rare that your partner is the same language as you. If you both understand each other’s sex language it can make a world of difference in how you connect physically and emotionally. The five sex languages are:

  • Fun: For this person sex is about playing.
  • Desire: This person gets turned on by knowing they are wanted.
  • Pleasure: For this person experimentation and the sheer pleasure of sex turn them on.
  • Patience: This person likes to take their time and relish in touch.
  • Acceptance and Celebration: This person gets turned on knowing that you love and accept all parts of who they are.

Sexual Management

It’s shocking how many couples over 50 still fight over when to have sex, how often, who initiates and what’s ok and what’s not. A sexual agreement can help iron out all these issues, taking the anxiety out of sex and putting the fun back in. This agreement spells out a mutually agreed upon frequency of sex and creates a pattern where each person takes turns initiating sex. If one person always initiates it creates an imbalance. The agreement also has consequences. For example if your partner refuses sex on an agreed upon date, there is a consequence. This way sex can’t be used as manipulation. You know if they’d rather do the consequence than sex, the issue they’re upset about is real. Sex can become a weakness in a marriage if it’s used as a tool of control.

Top 3 Tips Moves During Sex

Doing these three simple things will heat up your sex life immediately

  • Open your eyes-Neurologically, we attaché to whatever we are looking at or thinking about. Look at your partner!
  • Lights on-You want to be able to see your partner, especially as men are such visual creatures. Use candles or soft, low lighting if lights make you nervous.
  • Nurturing conversation-Use the words that connect with your partner’s sex language during foreplay, sex and post coital pillow talk.

Make sex a priority and you’ll soon find that sex after 50 could be the best sex of your life.


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